Things to Do When You're in a Negativity Rut...


Before I start today's post I just need to say it took a lot of debating and arguments with myself to use the photo I used for this post. Up until recently I was a very "no nonsense", "use the same practiced smile in every photo" kind of gal. So, for me to voluntarily use a photo with me STICKING MY TONGUE OUT AT YOU... took some gritting of my teeth and telling myself to get over myself.


But anyways, without further ado, let's get going with this week's post.


I don't know about you all, but my week last week was hectic with a capitol "H". I was teaching more cycle classes than usual, had a training seminar this weekend with LA Fitness, was trying to work through my CPT course, stay on top of keeping my house clean, etcetera. I could list things till the end of time.


But on Sunday, I was sitting at a Starbucks. I had just finished powering through an entire two modules of my CPT course and I was essentially brain dead. To an outsider, I was staring off into space, hands resting in my lap, draped into my chair. Pretty big contrast to where I was at a few moments prior. Before that I had rigid back posture, my fingers were typing away, and my gaze was glued to my laptop screen. But internally, in that relaxed moment, I was reflecting on my week and I was shocked at what I saw.


I had been irritable, exhausted, and on the verge of tears all week. All because I was inundated with things I was needing to work on. That pressure led me to approach my loved ones with frustration and look at myself in a negative light because I felt like I wasn't getting things done fast enough (in my opinion).


I figured if I was having a week like that, one of you HAS to have been through a week like that as well. So, here are some tips on what to do when you're in that negative/exhausted rut:


  1. Take one night and do nothing. Sunday evening I went home and turned off all my electronics and grabbed a book. I threw together an easy dinner. I made it an easy night where I let myself just do nothing.

  2. Check in and become grounded with a friend or loved one. Friday night was probably when I was at my peak stress level, and when I lashed out at my friend, instead of getting angry with me, he insisted on calling me and us taking an hour or so to catch up and get grounded again. So, side note: As a friend or loved one, if someone you know is approaching you with negativity and frustration, don't take it personally. Instead, see it for what it most likely is, exhaustion and probably too many things on their plate. Offer a phone call, send them some positive words, meditate on unconditional love and direct it towards them.

  3. Focus on your health, and before you come at me with "ANOTHER thing to focus on?? Absolutely not!" let me explain. If you know you are taking care of your body and your mind, you feel better about yourself as a whole. Part of my problem at the beginning of last week was that I was eating horribly, and I hated it. So, on Wednesday I put myself back in check and started eating better again. My body felt better, therefore my mindset towards myself felt better and I became more graceful with myself again.

  4. Get good sleep. I understand this one is challenging when you feel like you don't have enough hours in the day, but it is so so important. I was staying up until 1 or 2 in the morning trying to study but you (and I) need to realize that if you're exhausted, you're not doing yourself any favors and you're not making your life any easier. So try to get AT LEAST 7 hours of sleep each night. Throw on some "Relax" drops, use your pillow spray, drink a cup of tea and go to bed.

These are the main 4 things I did last week to get grounded and keep my stress/negativity levels down (to the best of my ability). There will be weeks where you have more on your plate than usual and that's okay, but just remember to take care of yourself too. Those tasks will still be there I promise, so slow down, ground yourself, make sure your personal boundaries are in place, eat well, and rest. I hope you all have a wonderful week and I'll see you next Monday! Xx